Whatever it is that you intend to do with your life, you will be relying on other people to get you there.
I hate that sentence as much as you do. For years I’ve wanted to become successful in my field, but on my own terms, with no help from those around me. Maybe it’s an intrinsic stubbornness that makes me feel this way, or just the sheer desire to prove so many people wrong, I’m not sure. What I do know is that actually achieving my dreams is impossible without a viable network of friends, colleagues, family members and mentors to help guide me through the storm that is the route to success, and it’s having to accept this help from other people that I’ve found most difficult.
Thus far, I do not deem myself a successful individual. I believe I’m on the correct route to finding it, but I have not yet been validated for my work, which I deem as true success. As a highly independent person, coming to terms with needing help from others was a huge knock on my pride; it left me questioning my capabilities, my motives for pursuing such avenues and most importantly, it took a huge knock to my confidence. Accepting this help was three steps back for me. But I learned something in the process…
If I ever intend to truly achieve my dreams and goals and be a successful individual, I need to understand that people around me want to help make that happen. It may not be directly, but people are always there to pull you out of the well when the going gets tough, thats the truth. It could be a simple conversation with a friend that boosts your confidence, a financial bailout from a family member or a new, usable contact from a colleague; the bottom line is, they’re on hand to develop you.
Over the last week or so, I’ve reached out to so many people I feel could offer me something to help me get a step closer to achieving my goals. I’ve asked countless questions, sought advice from mentors and leaned on friends and family when the going gets tough. I’m in the process of accepting that these people are my team members and this is what they’re here for, they’re on ‘team Callum’.
If you can take one thing from this article it’s this: Find and build your own team. Seek advice from as many people as you can, and more importantly, if you really want to make it happen for yourself, don’t waste time with those players who only show up for the free beer at the end, they’re not worth your time.